For the week of September 24, 2018
The Observer’s Perch
As a life long reactionary, I have struggled with the observer’s perch. Oh, I
understood what it is, and I can wholeheartedly accept its necessary
importance. But I have also long believed that my reaction was important.
I bowed up in indignation, I cried, I yelled, I protested, and I resisted.
And most of the time, I accomplished very little other than an upset
stomach and sleepless nights.
This morning, a friend on FB posted something ugly and mean. My
reaction was instantaneous. Heat flowed through me, my temper flared. I
must make this right, I thought!! I am going to tell her how wrong she is!! I
came up with several pithy responses to her very obvious (to me)
ignorance.
And then I stopped. I breathed for a moment. And I remembered the
observer’s perch. I breathed a while longer, letting my thoughts percolate
and my breathing return to its normal relaxed rate.
Something amazing came to me. I saw how this person is a teacher for
me. She showed me clearly how quickly and emphatically I respond to
stimuli. She gave me the opportunity to step back and reconsider my
response to her words. She gave me the opportunity to perceive front and
center the wild duality that we are living in currently, and the opportunity to
choose my place within it. She showed me that, sometimes, the act of
resisting is just simply resistance.
I have long struggled with the concept of observer’s perch vs denial.
Today it all became crystal clear. Denial is a repudiation of responsibility,
often times to yourself. You might sacrifice everything for the rightness of
the cause, or simply just the right to be, well, right. The observer’s perch
allows choice and considered response. It allows me choose what, if
anything, to do about the words this woman shared. And it allows me
room for love in that decision. And, as an added and unexpected bonus, I
felt no need to judge myself for my initial reaction.
As is so often the way, now that I understand the clear distinction between
the two, and how to embrace the observer’s perch, I know I will now have
many opportunities to make sure that I really “got it”. I can welcome those
now and commit to recognizing them in the moment. I can commit to
making room for love when I am triggered. I can commit to the open door
that signifies this incredible, miraculous new world we are living in, and be
willing to embrace it whole heartedly. And finally, I can add a whole new
element of gratitude to my life.
The view from the observer’s perch is magnificent...
(**Many thanks to Stephanie (every day) and to pegrace (today) for
helping me get to this place. We are surrounded by teachers, and I am
very grateful.)
***This guidance column was written by Jan Finley for TheCosmicPath.com. It may be shared freely, but only when the author’s name and website are included.
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Dearest Jan, your words are a teaching of themselves, words we should always remember in our own times of wanting to push back! Thank you for sharing…have a Blessed day!
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Jan,
Thank you…what a wonderful, simple and valuable lesson you just shared with us. This was such a fabulous “Teaching Moment”. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I now know how to embrace the “Observer’s Perch”……you & Stephanie are such gifts to all of us……Thank you both.
Thank you! ❤️
P.S. It should have been “you & Stephanie are such beautiful gift to all of us.” As Jan said, “if” I had taken my time and proof read……we are learning lessons at ever wonderful turn.
No question about it!! ❤️
Dear Jan Thank you for articulating your process of remembering The Observers perch in the mist of your reaction to your friend. Boy can I identify….And I am finally learning to stay on the observers perch for the most part. I had a similar thing happen last night where my first reaction was to fight back, attack, and I quickly FELT my higher self guiding me to go to the observers perch to relax , breath and start over again. What a relief to not abuse my self/others with the old lower energies.To allow myself to engage my heart, to have compassion and change my thoughts. Thank you. And can I ask as you referenced me above how I helped you get to this place 🙂
I am thanking you because it was a comment you made on Stephanie’s blog last week about the observer’s perch that triggered this whole process for me, and I am very grateful! ❤️
OH thank you Jan, Reminds me that we are truly in this together and all being used to help, love and support one another as we journey through this amazing transformation time on planet earth school 🙂 <3 much love, peace and blessing to you!
Thanks and the same to you and to all of us on this amazing journey!
HI Jan,
I so hear and feel what you have been feeling about reactionary rapid responses from fear and anger(duality), and how taking a few deep breaths, spending time with our thoughts and feelings, and then stepping into our hearts to learn the lessons our so called friends, or freinemies, are here to teach us.
I was once read a book by His Holiness the Dalai Lama in the year 2008, when student teaching, with my supervisor teacher, my enemy. The book(can not remember then name) taught that enemies teach us patience, tolerance, and compassion. I simply prayed every school day for 12 weeks, to practice patience, tolerance, and compassion for my enemy. I was not in the observer’s perch at that time. It is a tough skill to learn, however in hindsight I see the lessons. I could not speak to my supervisor as well, she was nuts.
I believe WE are all in the observer’s perch now (5D). Challenges help us, take time to breath, ponder, and eventually respond with love or not respond at all. The enemy experience is the teacher. It is always a shift between the 3D and 5D, yet I feel WE have good solid footing, most of the time in the 5D observer;s perch.
Hurray, Hurray, Hurray, Love, Love ,Love.
WE are awake, WE are the observers, and I will go back and reread your channel and thoughts and the responses of others.
It is so important, it is our duty, it is why WE are HERe NOW, to hold the light, and practice peace, love, truth, non-violence, and correct action. WE are only able to do this from the observer;s perch, and respond in Divine Timing, with LOVE. WE hold the ladder for the ones not yet there, the shift is in action, However there is much overlap in the transitional shift of humanity.
Trust in trust, faith in faith, be LOVE.
Kudos to the Kurus. WE are where WE are intended to be. All in Divine Timing.
Oh, and a friend on FB, can just be defriended on FB, with a click, no need to respond.
I stay off FB.
With so much love and gratitude!
Susan in Virginia with LOTS of RAIN, and the animals of the woods
Thank you so much for your input. I learn so much from all of you! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your perspective on the observer’s perch. I was confused as to what it was, whether I was on it, etc. then I realized that it’s my natural inclination. So of course I couldn’t see where it was … I was standing on it. But, the irony, is that because I tend to go there, I would more often go down, back into the waters, the mud, the mess because I FELT BAD or guilty or whatnot, for not suffering. For being ‘aloof’. But I cannot save anyone from drowning if I’m drowning myself …
In personal matters, however, I have more the tendency to not get on the perch, so now that I fully understand it, I can more easily pull myself out. It sometimes feels disembodied, like I’m watching ‘me’ but at the same time, it doesn’t cause so much discomfort in the body itself, through negative emotions and all the biological reactions that come with them!
So many wonderful insights! Thank you! ❤️